10 Things to Avoid Saying to Children to Preserve Their Mental Peace

10 Things to Avoid Saying to Children to Preserve Their Mental Peace"

1. In-Law Conflicts: "Your grandmother drives me crazy with her constant criticism."

2. Financial Worries: "We're so broke; I don't know how we're going to pay the bills this month."

3. Partner Disputes: "Your father/mother never listens to me, and I'm sick of arguing."

4. Work Stress: "My job is so stressful; I can't stand my boss."

5. Sadness and Negativity: "I feel so depressed and hopeless lately."

6. Health Concerns: "I'm worried this illness might be something serious."

7. Divorce or Separation: "I think we're going to have to get a divorce."

8. Legal Troubles: "I'm afraid I might get arrested because of this."

9. Political or Social Issues: "The state of the world is terrifying, and I don't know what will happen next."

10. Death and Mortality: "I don't think grandpa is going to make it much longer.

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To preserve the mental peace of children, avoid discussing or expressing certain adult concerns in their presence. Here are ten such topics, along with examples of how they might come up in conversation:

1.      Fighting with In-Laws

Avoid saying: "Your grandmother drives me crazy with her constant criticism."

Instead, try: "Grandma and I sometimes see things differently, but we both love you very much."

1. Financial Problems

Avoid saying: "We're so broke; I don't know how we're going to pay the bills this month."

Instead, try: "We're working on making sure everything is taken care of. You don't need to worry about it."

1. Fights with Partner

Avoid saying: "Your father/mother never listens to me, and I'm sick of arguing."

Instead, try: "Sometimes adults need to talk things through to understand each other better."

1. Work-Related Stress

Avoid saying: "My job is so stressful; I can't stand my boss."

Instead, try: "Work has been busy, but I'm handling it. How was your day at school?"

1. Sad and Negative Feelings

Avoid saying: "I feel so depressed and hopeless lately."

Instead, try: "I'm having a tough day, but I'm working on feeling better. Let's do something fun together."

1. Illness and Health Concerns

Avoid saying: "I'm worried this illness might be something serious."

Instead, try: "I'm going to the doctor to make sure I stay healthy."

1. Plans for Divorce or Separation

Avoid saying: "I think we're going to have to get a divorce."

Instead, if necessary, say: "Mom and Dad need to talk about some important things. We both love you very much."

1. Legal or Criminal Issues

Avoid saying: "I'm afraid I might get arrested because of this."

Instead, try: "I have some things to sort out, but you don't need to worry about it. Everything will be okay."

1. Political or Social Issues

Avoid saying: "The state of the world is terrifying, and I don't know what will happen next."

Instead, try: "There are a lot of things happening in the world, but we're safe and things are being worked on."

1. Death and Mortality

Avoid saying: "I don't think grandpa is going to make it much longer."

Instead, try: "Grandpa is very sick, and the doctors are doing their best to help him."

By framing these issues in a way that is less stressful and more reassuring, you can help maintain a sense of security and peace for your children.

Some Phrases which we say casually can be hurtful and can leave a long lasting hurtful impact in the lives of the children. Let us avoid that absolutely and try saying things which are more positive for the healthy emotional and psychological development of children.

        I.            "You're not good enough"

Instead, say: "Everyone has their own strengths. Let's work on finding and improving yours."

1. "Why can't you be more like [sibling/friend]?"

Instead, say: "You are unique and special in your own way. Let's focus on what makes you amazing."

1. "You're so lazy/stupid/useless"

Instead, say: "I know you can do better. Let's find a way to help you succeed."

1. "I don't have time for you"

Instead, say: "I’m busy right now, but let's spend some time together later. I want to hear about your day."

1. "It's all your fault"

Instead, say: "Let's figure out what went wrong and how we can fix it together."

1. "I wish you were never born"

Instead, say: (Never say this. If feeling overwhelmed, take a moment to calm down before speaking.)

1. "Stop crying, it's not a big deal"

Instead, say: "I can see you're upset. Do you want to talk about what’s bothering you?"

1. "You're too sensitive"

Instead, say: "It’s okay to feel upset. Let’s talk about why you're feeling this way."

1. "Grow up"

Instead, say: "It's normal to feel that way. Let's work through it together."

1. "You should know better"

Instead, say: "Let’s talk about what happened and what we can learn from it for next time."

Maintaining a positive, supportive, and understanding communication approach is crucial for the healthy emotional and psychological development of children.

Cheers to Joyful Parenting

Swati